Is there forgiveness for cheating?

Your significant other is cheating on you.

Gut reaction?

Probably shock, loss, loneliness, anger, shame, embarrassment, sadness...

The feelings are genuinely the same for most people who have to endure this type of circumstance.
But what would you do?

Would you try to move up and move on without your significant? Would you forgive and try to forget? Would you forgive and always live in fear and rage?

I've often thought of this situation and how I would react. I honestly don't know. Sometimes you think you're stronger than you are and sometimes you're not half as strong as you would imagine.

I read a bit by Gwyneth Paltrow, who usually doesn't have anything worth noting to say - in my opinion -, but she surprised me.

In her most recent interview with Cosmopolitan she says,

"I'd imagine you'd begin to question your life. It would definitely make things harder, but I believe that if there's authenticity and honesty right off the bat, things will be okay," she continued. "I think that if the idea of being committed to someone is important to you, you begin to value certain parts of your social life over another.

How genuinely insightful. Honesty right off the bat is key. If the relationship has even a chance to bounce back there has to be immediate honestly and forthcoming with what has happened. Once that cut can bleed it can heal. Whether it leaves scars is unquestionable, but at least you can move forward or move on at that point.

No reading, nor quote, nor anecdote will lead you in one way or another. The choice, the circumstance, the relationship, it's all individual and real.

Why Being a Bridesmaid Is the Worst.

If you've ever been asked to do the honors of being a bridesmaid you know exactly what this post will touch upon. Be a part of your bestie's big day? Wouldn't miss it for the world. Be a key player in the wedding party? Sounds great! Spend your safely guarded savings account? ehhh.... Be available to the bride 24/7 weeks prior to the wedding? ummm...

To be clear, if you've been a bridesmaid before, congratulations. A friend of yours values your friendship sooo much that they would ask you to be one of the few in their wedding party.

But let's be serious... being a bridesmaid WILL cost you.

There are expenses. The bridesmaid dress, the shower, the bachelorette, the shoes, the makeup, the hair, a wedding gift, and an envelope on the wedding day. Stop annnnd breathe.

There are obligations. But can we really call them obligations? Yes, absolutely. Sorry besties...
You have to be present for the bridesmaid dress picking, the bride's dress picking, the favor making, the bridal shower preparations, the shower itself - which you will be busy opening presents, throwing your nicely done hair into a pony tail, whipping sweat off your brow, and frantically writing down names of people you don't know, I digress. You must also come up with activities for the shower, and then for the bachelorette... I can't even get into the week of the actual wedding...

You can't wear it again. You can't. Trust me. No matter what the bride says. The day of the wedding that dress will be pinned, taped, and sewn to your body, just to make it through the day.

And last but not least... you have the dress fitting. Please take the time after deciding on a dress to have some mom-and-pop-shop seamstress take your measurements that will be exaggerated to make you feel bad about yourself. Put the forks down ladies, because you're getting a size 14 dress.

Still think it's an honor to be a b-maid? With all this fuss it's a miracle anyone actually agrees to this madness! But you know what? You'll be getting married some day. And when you look over your shoulder as you stand in the aisle, you will know exactly why this was all worth it. Cheers to all the brides out there, may your day be filled with bridesmaids by your side.

5 Things Men Hate.

Let me preface by saying... I am not a man. Nor do I claim to know what every man hates. But with a little bit of observation over my years and a few men to freak out on me when one of these things is done... it's pretty easy to say that this list is pretty accurate-o.


1. Men hate sharing their food. If you want something, you order it yourself. Don't interrupt feeding time.

 2. Men hate needy women. They're there to be your partner, not your blanket.

3. Men hate cats. Not to be confused with pussy.

4. Men hate shopping. "Hunny buns, do you wanna go sho.." -NO.

5. Men hate criers. They freak out, they don't know how to handle it. He'll only cry if his team loses so he can't relate to your emo breakdowns over things that actually matter.

Having said this, are we here to keep men happy? You decide. I like to keep my men content, well feed, and slightly drunk. Ya know, to tame the beast.

Quotes Girls Use But Shouldn't

Girls, we get it. Sometimes you're sad, sometimes you're happy, sometimes you want to throw a purse at someone's face... it happens. But leave your emotions at the door when it comes to instagram, facebook, and whatever social media you have access to. It's obnoxious. Don't believe me?
Read this...

 

 

 

Are you RME or SMH yet? #peoplelaughatthesestatuses #knockitoff #yourebetterthanthis #youllthankmewhenyoureolder

 

Instead...

when you're sad, call a friend,

when you're mad, take a walk,

when you're happy, share a smile,

when you're in love, tell him ;)



Men Explained.

Happy Shark Week!

You're not even safe in your own home.
You're welcome.

Painfully True Clichés

You don't know what you've got til it's gone.
Joni Mitchell never lies.

You can't have your cake and eat it too.
Because once you've eaten it, you don't have it anymore.

You always want what you can't have.
And once you have it, the newer version comes out.

Time will tell.
But so will hookups, so be careful what you expose.

Every rose has it's thorn.
A tribute to Bret Michaels, who is playing in Stamford tomorrow night!

What goes around, comes around.
Karma, that betch.

It's who you know.
Just ask the employed...

History repeats itself.
History repeats itself.

Once a cheater...
Always a no-good piece of @#$&, mother $%&#*

If you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.
Go explore and do great things. Onward you go...